Home › Articles › How to Know If Someone Is Serious

How to Know If Someone Is Serious About a Relationship

Early on, it can be hard to tell whether someone is genuinely interested in a future with you or just enjoying the attention. Words are easy. Consistent actions are what show you who is serious.

10 signs someone is serious

1. They are consistent. They reply at a steady pace, not hot one week and silent the next.
2. They make plans. They suggest a call or a meeting, not just endless chatting.
3. They ask about your life, not only about your looks.
4. They remember details you mentioned before.
5. They are honest about their past and their situation.
6. They talk about what they want, such as marriage or a long-term partner, without being asked ten times.
7. They respect your pace and do not push for photos, calls or meetings before you are ready.
8. They are happy to video call.
9. They introduce parts of their life, such as friends or interests, as things move forward.
10. They never ask for money. Not a loan, not a gift, not help with an investment.

Red flags

Avoiding video calls for weeks. Stories that change. Pushing you to move to WhatsApp or Telegram straight away. Declaring deep love very quickly. Any request for money, however small or however sad the reason. If you see these, slow down. Our scam guide explains more.

Simple questions to ask

You can ask directly without sounding pushy. Try: "What are you hoping to find here?", "What does a good weekend look like for you?", or "Where do you see yourself living in a few years?". Serious people answer easily, because they have thought about it.

Why stating intentions helps

Much of the guessing goes away when both people say what they want from the start. On YoursVow every profile shows a relationship goal (marriage, long-term relationship, life partnership or still deciding), so you begin with an honest answer instead of having to dig for one.

Common questions